From Misaeng, a Korean drama to see dilemmas women face in the society.
What's the most suitable jobs for women?
This is the exact words from one famous Korean show, Misaeng. The female character, Ahn Young-yi (Third from the left), is bullied by her colleagues because of her gender. She doesn't do anything wrong, but since she is a female and smart, she is isolated by all the men. The quote isn't about her but a pregnant coworkers. Those men say it to her face.
This is what Sun Ji-young said to her husband when she can't take their daughter back home. She is the head of a department, and she is the only one who are willing to help those female workers who are harassed by their superiors in the company.
Asian people think that it's Mother's duty to take care of children, and even though Sun Ji-young's husband "allows" her to work after pregnancy, he still doesn't think he needs to give her a hand. It's ironic when women obviously can't produce a child on their own. Children need two people to produce and two people to take care of. However, few men in Asian society love to take on their own responsibility. Of course, things change a little. but when something happen to children, the society always blames the mother.
The example is here. In China, a father accidentally drop two four-year-old children from the forth floor to the first. In the first place, every news websites blamed the mother, but when they know it's the father's fault, they changed the title from Mother to Parents.
It's apparent that they think Mother needs to be criticized since she is the one who has the obligation to take care of children. When the mother make something bad happen to children, the fault is one-sided and the father is the victim, but when the situation is the other way around, it's mutual, both "parents" need to be blamed.
In the workplace, women are lowlife, and in the family, we are only cherished at the moment of giving birth to children.
Can we change this situation?
Hardly, because we have a tough culture, telling every man that it's right to do so. Our culture thinks every person has the duty to the society. The men are in charge of big decisions both in family and in workplace, while women need to take care of children and only are viewed important when their husband pass away and their sons become the patriarch of the family. This idea is in our textbooks, our news and our teachers and parents' mind. It's like brainwashing everyone to do exactly what our ancestors says, so it's unlikely to be changed
That's why I weep so hard after I had finished this drama. We can't change what men think about us. We can't change what the society considers us be. It's like a war that we are losing terribly. When we step forward, the ropes on our necks pull us backward. When we think our female president can improve this situation, there are men spreading the words that they lose their jobs because women can't run a country well. We are alone, completely alone on the path to gender equality.
Mostly, people would have some answers like teachers, nurses and...well, what's the jobs that women can stop doing after the pregnancy and still can come back to work?
The news and society keep telling us that women are qualified for all the jobs. Men welcome us to work with them. However, when it comes to having children, their attitude wouldn't be as friendly as we expect.
(Korean show, Misaeng)
"Can't she just stop breeding? We now need to do her parts. Women are so annoying."This is the exact words from one famous Korean show, Misaeng. The female character, Ahn Young-yi (Third from the left), is bullied by her colleagues because of her gender. She doesn't do anything wrong, but since she is a female and smart, she is isolated by all the men. The quote isn't about her but a pregnant coworkers. Those men say it to her face.
As you can see, there are few female in the poster. Only two. And I can guarantee you that there aren't many in the show. Women in that company are viewed as some lowlife. They might work harder than men but their efforts are hardly seen. They need to suffer from sexual harassment from their boss. Even though they complain, only a few would listen. When they cooperate with men, sometimes, they have done all the works but men take all the credits.
In this drama, it not only shows the struggles those graduates need to face but also reveals a cruel truth that Asian women need to accept bravely.
In men's eyes, we are second-class.
When it comes to giving birth to children, we are cherished, but if it is about jobs, we are nothing.
"I also have jobs. Can you stand in my shoes?"
This is what Sun Ji-young said to her husband when she can't take their daughter back home. She is the head of a department, and she is the only one who are willing to help those female workers who are harassed by their superiors in the company. Asian people think that it's Mother's duty to take care of children, and even though Sun Ji-young's husband "allows" her to work after pregnancy, he still doesn't think he needs to give her a hand. It's ironic when women obviously can't produce a child on their own. Children need two people to produce and two people to take care of. However, few men in Asian society love to take on their own responsibility. Of course, things change a little. but when something happen to children, the society always blames the mother.
The example is here. In China, a father accidentally drop two four-year-old children from the forth floor to the first. In the first place, every news websites blamed the mother, but when they know it's the father's fault, they changed the title from Mother to Parents.
It's apparent that they think Mother needs to be criticized since she is the one who has the obligation to take care of children. When the mother make something bad happen to children, the fault is one-sided and the father is the victim, but when the situation is the other way around, it's mutual, both "parents" need to be blamed.
In the workplace, women are lowlife, and in the family, we are only cherished at the moment of giving birth to children.
Can we change this situation?
Hardly, because we have a tough culture, telling every man that it's right to do so. Our culture thinks every person has the duty to the society. The men are in charge of big decisions both in family and in workplace, while women need to take care of children and only are viewed important when their husband pass away and their sons become the patriarch of the family. This idea is in our textbooks, our news and our teachers and parents' mind. It's like brainwashing everyone to do exactly what our ancestors says, so it's unlikely to be changed
That's why I weep so hard after I had finished this drama. We can't change what men think about us. We can't change what the society considers us be. It's like a war that we are losing terribly. When we step forward, the ropes on our necks pull us backward. When we think our female president can improve this situation, there are men spreading the words that they lose their jobs because women can't run a country well. We are alone, completely alone on the path to gender equality.
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